They say that when you lose one of your senses your other
senses compensate for the loss and for me it was my hands that became my eyes.
When I lost my sight my youngest child was two and my eldest
eight. My husband went to work and I got on with life at home. I got the kids
up and dressed for school, I made them breakfast; I did the washing and
cleaning and played with the little one. And the only way I could do all this
was by learning to use my hands instead of my eyes. I didn't have any of the
gadgets that are available to help blind people. I learnt that when you dropped
something just sweeping around randomly with your hand didn't work but if you
put your hands together and then move them out and round in a circle and repeat
this widening the sweep you are more likely to find whatever it was you
dropped.
You have to look at clothes with your hands and learn to
identify the different sizes by touch.
When I cooked I would have to touch the food to see if it
was cooked.
I find that if I am going to pick something up it's best
to approach it from the side this way you won't knock things over.
When I go shopping I won't buy clothes or toys or shoes
ect. without looking at them myself, I don’t have anybody choosing my clothes
for me and if I don't like it then I don't buy it.
I would do the ironing and people would say how can you do
that when you can’t see. Again it was my hands that made it possible. I always
made sure that I put the iron down facing away from me and would slide my hand
along the edge until I touched the wire this way I could pick the iron up again
without getting burnt. I would always have my left hand on the garment and
ironed with my right it was just instinct that enabled me to keep my left hand
away from the iron but still use it to hold the garment and know when it was
done properly. I confess that I can't iron a shirt to save my life it would end
up with more tram lines than there are in Manchester Piccadilly. But I don't
lose sleep over what I can't do, that's just life.
I peel veg with a potato peeler and I'm sure that
sometimes I miss a bit but it's never done us any harm so again I don't let it
bother me.
I wash up and know that I and other blindys quite often
do this better than those with sight. I am sure this is because we feel the
plates and things as we're washing them where as people with sight wear gloves
or just think it looks clean when it isn't.
When it comes to housework, I don't get offended when my
family tell me that I'm missed stains or bits when I've hoovered or mopped the
floors or that I haven't done the windows properly. I just go back and do the
bits I've missed or even let them do it for me.
I remember being asked to talk to a woman who was losing
her sight shortly after I'd lost mine. She was finding it really hard to cope. She
would get upset when she couldn't tell the difference between a can of beans
and a can of peas. I was lucky in that I wouldn't ever have let a thing like
that bother me.
One thing I did find hard to do was go out on my own
using a long cane. I had used a symbol cane in strange areas and after dusk but
this was completely different. I had a few mobility lessons in, of all places,
the corridor of a secondary school. Of course this didn't help much but it was
all that was offered.
I remember the first time I went to pick the kids up from
school I crossed the road and my nose hit a (stationary) lorry. My cane went
under it and my false eye bounced out into the road. Fortunately I somehow managed
to find it and continued on my way. I was doing fine until I got on to the
first main road when I crossed a side road that shouldn't have been there. I
was so confused but knew I wasn't going the wrong way. It was only when my kids
told me that during the five months I'd been out of action they had built a new
estate and that was the entrance into that estate.
I absolutely hate using a cane and will avoid doing so
unless absolutely necessary and I admire any blind person who does use one.
To me it is really important that I do as much as I can
for myself for as long as I can. I'm not afraid to ask for help and I don’t
mind help being offered but for as long as I have the use of my hands I will be
as independent as it is possible to be.
B x